A couple of years ago, no matter how a woman was performing oral sex, it was great.

Provided you had enough spit and didn’t bite off the cock, you were perfect.

Nowadays, more than 80% of couples engage in oral sex and most women don’t shy away from giving head. The competition is harsh, ladies.

The harsh reality is that—although more and more women go down—they do it so poorly, and make the rest of us look bad. Make sure you’re not one of them.

Listen, if you want to rank in the top 1% of women that actually know what to do with a penis inside their mouths, read this step-by-step guide to world-class blowjobs.

Avid readers of women’s websites are already familiar with all sort of techniques written by women for women.

They are useless in real life, and I’ll tell you why later.

The 1% who can righteously call themselves oral sex experts don’t give a f*ck about technique.

How to Give a Great Blowjob (in 7 Steps)

Step #1: Find the Reason Why

Astonishingly enough, most women perform oral sex because they know their partner wants it, not because they enjoy doing it.

The result is obvious—a bored woman mechanically putting a penis inside her mouth.

Going down on your guy is one of the biggest gifts you can offer him.

Giving oral sex to your lover is an act of erotic generosity.

For me, oral sex is the extension of a kiss.

My tongue glides naturally all over the body of my lover and just as I kiss his mouth, I sometimes gently feel like kissing his penis as an expression of a love that has no physical boundaries.

Another (wrong) reason for women to engage in oral sex very quickly—even the first date—is trying to impress their partner with their promiscuity. Been there, done that.

The first question every man will ask himself is,

“If she sucked me so promptly, who else is she sucking just as eagerly?”.

That’s not slut shaming, it’s just a thought.

But yes, you’ll be a great booty call…but never more than that.

but never more than that.

Step #2: Have the Right Attitude

The difference between a good blowjob and a mind-boggling blow-job is not the technique.

It’s the attitude.

And the right attitude comes from your enthusiasm of wanting to please your lover orally.

But what happens if you’re disgusted by the idea of touching a penis with your mouth?

Let me make this clear for the guys—the girls already know.

Dicks look weird.

I’m not saying that our pussy doesn’t look like a crack in the tree—but a penis is more threatening.

It’s detached from the body and gives the impression it’s coming at us. AAAAAHHHHH!

That’s a fact.

We will learn to love it, eventually…

But it will take years.

However, one way to overcome the feeling of running away when you see a penis is…

MASTURBATING (read Jill’s story to see why).

Take a small vibrator and stimulate your clitoris while you go down on him.

It’s wonderful, I can guarantee it!


Introducing Jill: 

Jill is frustrated by her inability to please her boyfriend orally.

Despite loving him so much, she can’t get over the feeling of distaste over her own spit. 

She has even tried flavored lube, but somehow it still filled her up with disgust.

When she told me her story, I remembered a study that showed how women, when aroused, are not repelled by bad smells such as sweat or stinky feet.

I thought the same could go for taste.

My suggestion for Jill was to give oral sex only when she was aroused or while stimulating her clitoris with a vibrator.

Jill told me that stimulating herself during oral sex was a game-changer.

She even deep-throated her boyfriend in the midst of an orgasm.

Surprisingly, after getting used to her own spit, she was able to give head even without masturbating.


Step #3: Take Your Time

Just because guys take one minute to jerk off in the shower, it doesn’t mean that they want you to be as hastily as them… unless you’re in an elevator.

Then you have to hurry up.

(!) Nothing about a blowjob should be fast(!)—that’s just porn.
  • So start slowly by grazing your mouth against his penis.
  • Gently touch his head with your tongue,
  • and start licking the shaft with the same enthusiasm a 6-year old licks a Popsicle.
  • The goal in this step is to make his whole penis moist and allow yourself time to gather spit.

Step #4: Make it Rain

Probably the biggest advantage you can have over other oral sex enthusiasts—besides being confident—is using a lot of spit.

It just feels better when you make him wet.

Try to generate lots of salivae and use your hands to spread it all over the head, shaft, and balls (51% of men complain that their girlfriends ignore their balls during oral.).

Sucking on a mint will get your saliva glands going.

I was with  a girl who loved giving oral sex. She also knew that she was good at it, so she was very confident. Hottest thing ever! (guy on the internet)

Confidence and spit are the main ingredients for stellar oral pleasure.

Step #5: Put On a Show

Maybe I’ve been working marketing too much, but I believe in the importance of proper packaging.

In order words, guys are interested in the experience, not only in getting their dick being sucked.

This is where you can stand out and be smart.

Smart girls are like six-star hotels. 

They understand that people who pay $1.000 for a room want more than a bed to sleep in. They want to be immersed in a fun and memorable experience.

Touching your breasts while pleasing him, or an occasionally devilish look and a moan, will spark his imagination and make the difference between a good blowjob, and a blowjob he’ll never forget. 


OHACK: position yourself in front of a mirror and let him get a clear view of your buns while you bend over to reach his penis with your mouth. Don’t be afraid to spread your legs, or even reach down there when you have a spare hand.
Let him know you like it by softly moaning as you take him into your mouth. You’ll drive him nuts.

Step #6: Take a Break & Flatter Him

Conclusion:

Oral stimulation is a lover’s way of showing appreciation and affection to another human being.

If you look at oral sex as a job, this is what it will always be to you. A job…

You might be really good at your job.

Maybe you even like your job and enjoy going to work.

However, it will never be more than just a job.

And it will feel that way to your partner too.

14 comments

  1. LiseReply

    Dear Lucy,

    I need your advise. I gave my first blowjob about 2 years ago to my ex, it was a weird experience for me because I was trying to do something down there but after a while he would lift me up so I would stop. I tried many times after that, but always the same reaction from him, he wouldn’t let me down there for more than 5 minutes. I never had the courage to ask him what’s that about and now i think i suck at sucking dick.

    Please help me becausei have this amazing boyfriend now and i would sooo love to pleasure him that way. what would you advise me to do? Thanks.

    • LucyReply

      Lise, as much as I would love to be a psychic and know what your ex was thinking, I’m not.

      There are endless possibilities: maybe you were so good he couldn’t take it anymore or maybe he wasn’t comfortable because he ate something spicy and his belly was weird … a lot of scenarios could apply.

      Since you have an amazing boyfriend now, I think it is time to apply some of the things you learned here, and simply ask him afterwards what he liked and what he didn’t.

      The attitude you have towards wanting to pleasure him is the most important ingredient for NOT sucking at sucking. I’m sure you will do great.

      If you want to share some more of your story you can contact me privately through the Dear Lucy Form here.

      Cheers, L.

  2. ArnettaReply

    I like to give the “grapefruit blowjob” and did it before it got famous. But only as a highlight because it is very messy.

    You can’t do it every time and it needs a lot of practice. It’s not gonna be easy…

    If you don’t know what the grapefruit BJ is, this is what you need to do:

    1. Get a grapefruit. Cut the top and bottom of it so you have a big slice.
    2. Make a penis sized hole in the middle of it. (hide it in the bedroom)
    3. Lay down a towel on the bed. Super important this one if you don’t want to ruin your mattress.
    4. Some people use blindfolds…I don’t. It’s up to you.
    5. Start off with a regular BJ.
    6. Introduce the food! Put the grapefruit on his penis.
    7. Suck his penis while simultaneously working that grapefruit up and down.

    That’s about it…

    If your BF is sensitive the acid of the grapefruit might give him a burning sensation. Tell him to tell you to stop if something like that happens. He might be shy…

    He might also have a bit of a burning sensation when he pees afterward. And yeah! tell him to pee afterward.

    Enjoy!

    • LucyReply

      Thanks, Arnetta!

      I heard about this technique, but I never tried it since I don’t like the taste of grapefruit at all. If you like to write about it in more detail here, send me a private message. I would love to put up a blog post of yours on the website.

      Cheers, L.

  3. StaceyReply

    I totally agree with Lucy. The blow JOB doesn’t have to be A JOB. In the past I had a special routine in pleasing my BF:

    I had in my head, ok so now you lick for X minutes and then you suck for Y minutes, when doing that thing, look directly into his eyes and so on. Honestly, i was stressed because it really was a job. Now I really just suck dick because I enjoy it so much, I play with it not thinking about what to do next, just enjoying it.

    My boyfriend likes it more like that because he can relax too and he sees that I like it too, A LOT. So yeah, my secret to an unforgettable blow job is enjoying it to the fullest and your partner will follow. 🙂

  4. TreenaReply

    What i usually do to my boyfriend is i wake up in the middle of the night, get him hard while he’s still sleeping, then start to blow him, and he wakes up and SURPRISE! you won’t believe how many presents i got from doing that thing haha

  5. LorrettaReply

    Is this a paid theme or did you modify it yourself? Anyway keep up the excellent quality writing, it is rare to see this today.

    • LucyReply

      Sabina, if your friend is not an Ohacker (i.e. didn’t order the Odapter) she can’t see the hidden side of the blog – like you.

      There is plenty of free content she can look at, though. And if she likes what she sees we are happy to welcome her to our community.

      If she already is an Ohacker, tell her to log in.

      Cheers, L.

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